Friday, July 1, 2011

Problems with spanking

"The problem is when parents rely on physical punishment, they are more likely to escalate when the kids misbehave if they do not stop," he said. "They come back and they hit harder and are indeed more at risk to abuse them."

Research shows that parents who rely on spanking for discipline encourage negative behaviors, including aggression. Children can also show signs of depression and anti-social behavior as they grow older.

Those last 2 paragraphs I found on a website and now I forget which website it was but it had something to do with Parents and Teachers against violence.

I really do believe that when we were younger my father just thought he was trying to correct a behavior by spanking us. Then, though it spiraled out of control.

This is how I feel about spanking and its my own personal opinion because of what I have gone through. I feel that there are so many other ways to discipline than spanking. If you used spanking when the children are younger as they get older and do more annoying and hurtful things you get more frustrated and then I believe that's when it turns into abuse.

I know that there are people who can spank their children without the parent being angry or upset and if you are one of these people good for you. I however have never met a person who can do that because for the most part people who spank do it as a last resort thing because they have lost all patience.

The thing is that if you are calm when disciplining your child you would not spank them. Trust me this is very hard thing to do. I did not grow up with a very good example so I know how hard this is. Every single day before Baby wakes up I read my scriptures and pray for a long time and ask, well more like beg Heavenly Father to please allow me to have the patience I need to not yell or spank my child and be able to discipline him in a loving way. Every single time I have to discipline him its hard not to loss control, it takes a lot more energy to keep it together, trust me.


Midwayedancer said...

I so agree. It sends a clear message: when I get angry it's okay to hit. What kind of message is that?!

Brad and Danielle said...

I completely agree also. I was spanked as a child and I was a very angry child. I really mean to my siblings and I had low self esteem. Maybe this isn't all because of spanking, but I know it didn't help. I have never spanked Connor nor will I ever.

And I also completely agree that it's so much harder to keep it together when you are frustrated than to just yell and lose it. It takes so much practice and effort, but it's a much better way to parent.