I miss you

My dear husband is amazing, not to brag but really he is. He has started school full time and is also working full time. After realizing that the stores we own are not doing as well as we all thought they would do, we decided it was time for him to go back to school and get a degree. This was a hard decision since this meant Baby and I would barely get to see him but for a better future it needed to be done.

We miss Jon terribly! We really only see him Wednesday night, Saturday morning and Sunday morning that is all. I can see a difference in Baby since Jon started this new schedule my poor Baby he knows something is off.

The good thing is he only has 3 semesters left of school so not too long but then we have to decide what to do from there if get a job or go to a MBA program or JDMA.

Who are you?

The last few week I have come to realize that the people I knew as my parents are no longer...sad...

I never saw them as I do now. Maybe its like that for everyone out there but since I haven't had them close by I didn't see it till just recently.

But life goes on, right?

The Aguilera's

Well my family is moving to Utah. They are actually on there way as we speak and should be here by tomorrow night. You would think I would be super excited about this and maybe if this had happened a few months ago I would've be but right now its kinda bitter sweet.

You see I am kinda hurt by my parents and one sibling. All three are coming off as really ungrateful which makes me sad because my husband and I have done a lot in the last year for this one sibling and for them not to be grateful about it really hurts. I am now coming off to them as a trouble maker and liar. I cannot believe that my parents have taken sides it really hurts. The funny thing is that my mother will talk to me like nothing is wrong but I have my other siblings calling me and letting me know what my parents are saying behind my back. I thought we were all adults. My father hasn't spoken to me in about 3 weeks because I wouldn't help this one sibling out.

I know that once they get here I will have to have a lot of boundaries with them because they say a lot of things that in my books are not okay to say. I feel differently about the church then they do and that is causing some issues too, so it should be interesting how it all turns out.

Bully

I DO NOT LIKE BULLIES!

Today while at the playground with Baby a kid who is 2 years old comes to where we are at and starts pushing my son. I always thought I would lose my cool in a situation like this but I didn't. Instead Baby stood up for himself and pushed the kid right back and yelled at him, I was shocked and happy at the same time. This kept going on for about 10 minutes everything my son would do would bother this kid who came to where we were. Finally the little girl who Baby always plays with said we should go to where the slides are so we did. Baby was having a blast going down while the little girl caught him and then comes mr bully and starts pushing my son again. This time in a very soft and gentle voice I told him its not very nice to push other kids and that he would not like to be pushed either. The other little boy there even told me "he is mean and not treating your son nicely, huh?" so the other kids were seeing this at one point the little girl came up to me and said "he is a big bully isn't he?". Baby was about to go down the slide when the bully comes over and pushed him to the side and sits down but will not go down the slide so when Baby tried to push him to the side to go down mr bully pushed him really hard and Baby almost fell. I had had enough. I again very nicely said please do not push him, he is smaller than you and its not a very nice thing to do. I was shocked by the response, he looked at me with such anger and roared at me and then spit in my face, wow, I could not believe it. I didn't even know what to do, so I turned to him after grabbing Baby and said again in a soft voice I am so sorry that you are such an angry little boy and I left the playground. I thought about going to his mother and telling her but she had been drinking while she was outside and I didn't want to have to deal with someone who might have a buzz or something.

I am so saddened by this situation that a little 2 year old would think its ok to spit in an adults face and also by the anger he was showing at such a young age. Amazing parenting right there. I am not the perfect mother by all means but my gosh this woman saw her son push my son for about 10 minutes and she did nothing at all. Come on people show your children how to be nice human beings. I do not allow hitting, biting, kicking or pushing in my house or anywhere else so I think that I was expecting the same from other parents but I was wrong. Its so sad because I don't want Baby thinking that those things are ok cause they are not in my books so I grabbed him and left the park to wish he was super sad about, poor thing then we were stuck in the house the rest of the day but he kept taking me to the door.

Parents around here amaze me. Clearly there are a lot of issues in this situation but one of them is why on earth would you allow your 2 year old to be outside in a playground by himself. I sometimes think people want their children to be kidnapped no lie.

Computer is fixed

We were without our computer for about a month and a half. I was so sad when it died but this last week we had enough money to get it fixed and I just got it back. I have missed it so much. Now I have a whole bunch of things to post about. Stay tune...

Our 4 year Anniversary

Wow...4 years they have gone by way too fast. We have been thru a lot and done a lot in those 4 years but I wouldn't change them for the world. In those 4 years we have:

-lived in Provo, West Point and Ogden Utah

-gone thru 5 cars

-had family living with us for 32 months out the 4 years (I have hated it and will never happen again)

-became pregnant

-had our first baby and he couldn't be more wonderful

-opened a business

-Jon stopped going to school and is now after 2 years going back

-have traveled to California more times than I can remember, to Philadelphia and Virginia

-lived in an apartment for the first time and we love it

-had many arguments but still love each other at the end of the day

I am sure I am forgetting a ton of things.

For our anniversaries every other year I am in charge of planning what we are doing and this year was my year. We went out to dinner to our usual place, Red Lobster, its my favorite place, I know weird and when we first got married Jon would laugh at me but now he likes it too. Jon's mom watched Baby for us so we could get a night out by ourselves. After dinner we came back home to put Baby down while doing that Jon's mom left to help me with my surprise. I recreated our wedding cake, well kinda. We went to our store after it was closed and ate cake and listened to soft music then we danced to our wedding song that we never got to dance to since I got sick on our wedding day. It was really romantic and sweet I think and Jon seemed to like it.

Jon's 27th birthday

This year I learned that my husband actually likes amusement park. Never in 4 years of marriage have I heard him say that or have we gone but he told me that about 3 months before his birthday so when his birthday rolled around I figured I knew I wanted to go to an amusement park to celebrate his birthday. It was a surprise until about 3 days before he figured me out but still we had a blast. I got his mom, brother sister and her family along with my cousins and my best friend to all join us at Lagoon. I was so much fun. We were there from 12-10pm. Afterwards Jon told me this was the best birthday EVER.

the 2 loves of my life

I love watching these two together.

I will never be able to let this man know how much I love him and what he means to me.

My birthday

This year I turned 26 and to be honest I feel no different than last year or the year before. I had a very low key birthday. Jon's parents watched Baby for us and we went out to dinner with a friend. Nothing big or exciting.

He is a boy! Not a girl...

People are something else. I might have posted about this before but I am so upset or hurt or whatever it is.

Yesterday at the fair I was told Baby was a girl about 5 times. Towards the end I was just laughing in their face and right away calling him dude and then I went off in spanish with my cousin. This is my problem. He was wearing a green pair of shoes with a blue pair of shorts. What about that outfit is girly? Really people? If you aren't sure just don't say anything. How come some people can tell he is a boy but then other people can't? Are they blind?

That was yesterday...today I woke up determined to go to church and make it thru all of sacrament. I had to go by myself. I had a great morning and Baby and I went off to church. Everything was going great until...in the middle of the sacrament while the bread is being blessed a little girl, she looked to be about 3 years old, screams "daddy is that a girl" pointing to Baby. Then EVERYONE around us of course had to turn around and see including the girls parents and they didn't tell her yes or no, so I yelled "it's a boy". Mind you all of this is going on while is super quiet. Ok, todays outfit for church was blue and white shoes, blue and white striped shorts and a polo shirt with blue and gray stripes. Not only that but if you have ever gone to church there is never a little girl wearing shorts. Am I right or maybe I'm crazy. So since the parents didn't tell her he was a boy she kept on yelling out "is that a boy". By this point I was super pissed at these parents and the little girl. I am not even kidding, come on people shut your kids up ok. Seriously...even the people around them were feeling uncomfortable. The only lady at church that knows me just kept on looking at me like she was saying "I'm sorry". After about 30 minutes of this going on I just left church I was too embarrassed.

I understand my little boy has long hair but it is not girly hair its long boy hair. He doesn't even look girly. Maybe I need to start taking him out with a shirt that says "I am a boy not a girl get it right". I might actually get one for next Sunday.