tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2652969788944382876.post7859263053997373152..comments2023-12-01T03:24:54.638-07:00Comments on My Happily Ever After: My motherLaurahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14612023360938737992noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2652969788944382876.post-73790289042449855782011-06-07T13:24:40.391-06:002011-06-07T13:24:40.391-06:00I feel a little guilty for reading all of this bec...I feel a little guilty for reading all of this because I don't know you very well. All I can say is I'm so sorry for your situation. <br /><br />You are a courageous woman, wife, and mother. I applaud you for breaking the cycle. Both your father and mother were abused and they have passed it on to the next generation by abusing (and allowing the abuse of) you and your siblings. Your beautiful son is lucky to have you as his mother. Bad things happened and are happening to you but you will not pass it on to him. Way to go momma.<br /><br />You are right that someone who hasn't experienced these things doesn't know what it feels like. I feel I don't have much advice because I haven't experienced it and don't know the situation. I don't really know what to say even for comfort. <br /><br />The only advice I can give is for you to talk to your bishop. Tell him what is going on and that you are struggling with these problems. I know bishops can help point you to councilors and maybe therapists for further help.<br /><br />God bless you and your sweet family. I know we don't know each other very well, but I am more than willing to help in any way I can. Including watching Baby for you when you work if your mom now can't. I really hope things get better for you and your family.Brad and Daniellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00111687449038977514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2652969788944382876.post-80976932132196466952011-06-06T12:54:36.783-06:002011-06-06T12:54:36.783-06:00It takes on the average 7 times for a woman to lea...It takes on the average 7 times for a woman to leave and stay gone from an abuser. It is not understood nor will it ever be until a person goes through it themself. I could never comprehend why I saw woman do this until I went through it myself. There are many fears when thinking of leaving an abuser. Will he kill me? How will I pay for bills when he makes all the money? Where will I go? What about the kids? THe men gain such control that the woman doesnt know what to do. Attacking the woman is the worst thing to do. Tell her you love her and want the best for her and that you will help in any way. But that if she chooses to not get help and leave then you must wash your hands of the situation for it is best for you and your family. BUt that you will be there if she does ever choose to leave him. <br /><br />If your dad has gotten help but not gotten better or refuses to get help then God does not judge her for wanting to leave him!Benitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13587970257871314681noreply@blogger.com